B
Bob
it becomes hard to
envision a healty situation where one is
destroying/disabling/whatever in order to deceive one's
spouse.
The only practical way to avoid deception in money matters is to have
separate bank accounts. That way there is only one decision that needs
to be argued over - how much to put in each account. There is no
deceit possible if it is done this way.
The rule we use is that 25% of your net earnings goes into your
personal account and you can spend it on anything without question or
deceit. The rest goes into the community fund to pay bills, improve
the common good, etc. - what would be termed the "community property
account".
If you want something that is not part of community property, then use
your own money to pay for it.
--
"What the American people have seen is this incredible
disparity in which those people who had cars and money
got out and those people who were impoverished drowned."
-- Ted Kennedy on Hurricane Katrina
"Ditto"
-- Mary Jo Kopechne