I don't know, I keep hearing that but neither of mine were half as bad as I was. i think it's because, instead of giving arbitrary orders I would talk with them explain my reasons for things & listen to their point of view, explain mine & if they were right or had a better idea then would change to fit with it. In general I found that if you want kids or teenagers to treat you with respect & pay attention to what you say then you've got to accord them the same courtesy, right from the word go when they're still bubs. But that's just my experience, and except for those nightmare three years Rowan went through then mine never had to deal with the sh*t the school system dumps on them.