Herfried,
The important point that I 'missed' is included in the terms that I have
already described.
I want your acceptance of all of these terms plus any additional that you
have. There are good reasons for every single one - they are not arbitrary. If
you still have difficulty understanding why I have listed a given condition,
please ask someone to explain.
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The terms would be that -
For ten days:
1 We do not mention each other by name.
2 We don't respond to each other's posts.
3 We do not even refer to each other by implication. That means no
references <at all> that may even slightly connect with the other.
4 For the sake of completeness and the prevention of mistakes, Terms #2
and #3 will exclude everything - even complimentary remarks.
5 We do not join <any> discussion that may develop between <other>
people if it is in any way connected with us. That means a certain OT thread
and <any> further threads. We can read but can't speak - whatever they say
about us. [Best advice there is to leave that thread unread until the truce is
over.]
6 These terms cover this newsgroup only. This truce has no meaning
anywhere else in the Universe.
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The essential ingredient in this truce is an <absense> of contact. With
zero contact there can be no provocation. A single contact may cause
provocation <regardless> of what is said or how. No contact means no risk. Any
contact means risk.
|| > We don't respond to each other's posts.
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|| Why not? We want to provide help. If there is something to add,
|| I will add it, and you can do that too.
No. It is far too risky. For the period of this truce we do <not> respond
to each other's posts. We can jointly provide more help to this newsgroup by
staying apart than in any other way. I will <not> appreciate your additions to
my posts and <will> take it as a <breach of the truce>. As I say in Terms #2
and #4 - No responses at all, even if intended to be complimentary. Believe me
Herfried. Any compliment from you will be taken as condescending. Any remark
at all will be seen as an attempt.to irritate me. Any correction of my posts
will be taken as direct hostile action.
Please understand this, Herfried. Get someone to explain this to you if
you find it difficult.
|| You missed one important point:
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|| We are friendly to each other and do not use
|| words like "PLS". You know what I mean.
This is two points. The second point is covered by Term #1.
The first is a naive hope. There is no room for friendliness at this time.
If you want to look forward to friendliness later, you'll need to think about
building bridges across a wide gulf.
Both points are fully covered by the Terms. No contact and no mention of
each other - directly or indirectly. Nothing friendly, nothing hostile.
Nothing at all.
|| I won't reduce my support to the people asking questions only
|| because you are sometimes not able to avoid using insulting speech.
Act upon the first point and you jeopardise the truce. The second part has
no relationship to the first part. (and don't explain it - it is immaterial).
|| I won't reduce my support to the people asking questions.
|| If there is something to add, I will add it, and you can do that too.
I have no desire for contact with you. I will not be making additions to
your posts. You will be corrected each time that you are wrong. But not by me.
Think of it this way, Herfried. How many people are here providing input?
How many check the postings that are made? Plenty. More than plenty. Like
everyone, you are dispensible Herfreid. Drop dead tomorrow and this group
carries on. The only difference is that someone else will have an opportunity
to answer the questions.
So if there is an addition appropriate to any of my posts, you can be
certain that someone will take care of it. Someone <else>, Herfried. I will
not accept <anything> from you in a good light. That is why I put the Terms as
they are.
Again - please understand this. Get someone to explain it to you if you
find it difficult.
Fergus
If anybody else happens to read this, it might be useful to add whatever
encouragement Herfried might need to fully comprehend the reasoning behind
these terms. If Herfried responds in a way that shows unwilling, please
impress upon him the 'sacrifice' that is required for the good of the
community, or some such.
