probably a stupid question

[andy]

on windows xp my restart and turnoff options do not
activate.

 

[Bong. James Bong]

go to the user accounts control panel and click "change
the way users log on or off"

This may be what you are looking for.

 

[MGGP]

See this:
http://aumha.org/win5/a/shtdwnxp.htm

Good Luck !