Try using a newsreader, such as Outlook Express (which is already
installed on your system), instead of the web-based interface. And when
you post, use a more descriptive subject line.
The control panel icon that probably is missing is "Portable Media
Devices". Do you have Windows Media Player 11 installed? If so, it's
possible that this update may have removed it. See
http://help.lockergnome.com/windows/Portable-Media-Devices-missing-Control-Panel-ftopict520425.html
Or ask in the microsoft.public.windowsmedia newsgroup. See, e.g.,
http://tinyurl.com/5ctm9d
Note that both of the above links are 2006 threads. Did your problem
happen recently? What did you do just before it happened?